Attachment

It is my belief that attachment style formulates from childhood and can be influenced and repaired well into our senior years. Creating a consistent trusting safe haven space for a client to experience a new way of being in relationship is critical. Additionally, I have participated in specific Somatic training to work with the younger physiology underneath a client's attachment style first versus from the cognitive brain. This has the potential to create longer lasting results.

An attachment wound may show up as insecurity in relationships, difficulty being alone, fears of abandonment or betrayal, hesitation to open up to others, desire to keep people at arm's length, or constantly looking for reasons to end relationships. Through therapy, we'll identify how your attachment wound occurred and use a variety of approaches to clean out the wound — so healing can begin and fear won't be in the driver's seat going forward in relationships.

Our early experiences with primary caregivers can set the stage for how one approaches relationships throughout life. I work with clients to establish a trusting client-counselor relationship that can be used as a blueprint for strengthening other relationships and can serve as a foundation for vibrant mental health.

Attachment is a foundational piece of my work as a therapist. I believe deeply that each of us carries the stories of our family and its history within us. Not only that, but you carry the stories they gave to you *about* you. Most of those stories are false. In our work together, we'll dig out the stories that no longer serve you, and create space for new stories to take root. My hope is that our work will help you reclaim your connection to your body, inner wisdom, and authentic truth.

How we connect with others starts with how we’ve learned to feel safe and loved. Whether you're struggling with trust, boundaries, or emotional security, I help you untangle old patterns and build the fulfilling relationships you deserve.

I have lots of experience treating attachment issues, as they are responsible for many difficulties of day to day life. Disruptions in care of deeper difficulties with a parent/caregiver earlier in life can effect your attachment style, meaning that your first, pre-verbal experience of relationships shapes your understanding of relationships for the rest of your life. With me, we can practice how to form a healthy attachment which will inform partnerships in the rest of your life.

I recognize the importance of attachment style and early childhood experiences on how to navigate relational issues and insecurities.

“If you think you’re enlightened — begins an aphorism by psychologist and spiritual teacher Ram Dass — “[then] go spend a week with your family.” It rings true, right? That’s because we’re never more vulnerable — & therefore more easily triggered — than with our families of origin. And anyone who’s ever been in a partnership knows that those same wounds inevitably show up within the relationship. But there’s hope! In learning to reparent ourselves, we liberate ourselves to a new future

I work with mentalizatiion-based treatments and the Brown?Elliot Three Pillars model of attachment disorder repair.

Our relationship with those closest to us affects how we form our own identities, and impacts how we interact with everyone else around us. Attachment and trauma experiences go hand in hand, and play a huge role in how and why one experiences mental health concerns, including anxiety, depression, low self-worth, anger, dissociation, and so much more. I aim to help you recognize these attachment concerns and how they affect you, and work through them.

Attachment is one of those pieces that we can carry for a long time, and struggle to understand. I use EMDR, IFS, and brainspotting to help you lean in and gain an in-depth understanding of yourself so that you can learn how you adapt and function. In this process, you also learn to see yourself as human and love the human that is inside.

Attachment styles are formed early in life by our caregivers and then greatly influenced by relationships we have throughout our lives. I believe that attachment styles are as unique as fingerprint. By supporting individuals and couples better understand their attachment styles

Attachment can affect how we show up in our relationships and how relationships effect our wellbeing. We will redefine some shattered roles so that you can reimagine your relationships as whole.

Every relationship we have is impacted by the way we attach to others. Some people feel safety and security in their attachments, others feel discomfort and anxiety. For people who grew up with relationships that were unpredictable, disconnected, manipulative, etc, connecting and forming relationships can be extremely difficult. Thankfully, therapy can be immensely helpful in bringing awareness and tools for change so that we can feel safe connecting again.

Our attachment styles with original caretakers inform the way we relate to others as adults, including partners, friends, and even coworkers. I help patients untangle their feelings and experiences located in the past from their present relationship patterns, decide what’s still needed and useful, and what they can let go of.

I offer Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy which is a dynamic, present-moment mindfulness process that supports you in understanding the way you orient toward yourself, others, and the world and offers us the opportunity to heal developmental or transitional attachment wounds and trauma in present-moment processing in our relationship. The goals of this process is you feeling a sense of I AM, I WANT, and I CAN rooted securely within yourself and a solid and strong sense internal goodness.

My work supporting individuals across the spectrum of mental illness owes itself to attachment theory, self-concept development, and DBT/interpersonal effectiveness skills-building modalities. As human beings, we are, by definition, social and relational organisms that exist within a spectrum of ubiquitous contexts. Together, we will work to better-understand family dynamics, explore various attachment styles, and build better communication/boundary-setting skills.

Attachment (and its more advanced form of interpersonal neurobiology) is at the center of all my work. I help people understand the formation of their identity as they develop a narrative of their life to reflect on cause and effect regarding how a brain and nervous system create predictions based in memory. I teach clients about how to recognize when their own attachment patterns manifest and how to regulate and communicate to others in a way to resolve distress coming from attachment wounds.