Attachment

Attachment-based psychotherapy is an approach that emphasizes the importance of understanding and healing the bonds between a primary caregiver and a child. The primary goal of this therapy is to address mood and anxiety issues, childhood trauma, and relationship problems by enhancing an individual's ability to form secure and healthy connections with others and effectively manage their emotions.

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style and find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

I have lots of experience treating attachment issues, as they are responsible for many difficulties of day to day life. Disruptions in care of deeper difficulties with a parent/caregiver earlier in life can effect your attachment style, meaning that your first, pre-verbal experience of relationships shapes your understanding of relationships for the rest of your life. With me, we can practice how to form a healthy attachment which will inform partnerships in the rest of your life.

Attachment is a foundational piece of my work as a therapist. I believe deeply that each of us carries the stories of our family and its history within us. Not only that, but you carry the stories they gave to you *about* you. Most of those stories are false. In our work together, we'll dig out the stories that no longer serve you, and create space for new stories to take root. My hope is that our work will help you reclaim your connection to your body, inner wisdom, and authentic truth.

I help individuals understand and heal attachment wounds, fostering healthier relationships and deeper self-connection. Whether struggling with insecurity, fear of abandonment, or difficulty trusting others, I guide clients in identifying patterns shaped by past experiences. Using evidence-based techniques, I help build secure attachment within, empowering clients to form fulfilling, authentic relationships while strengthening self-trust, emotional resilience, and connection.

I utilize inner child and relational work in order to help you identify your needs as an individual and in relationship with others. By exploring and connecting with your inner child, we can discover another layer to becoming your most authentic self. Through these approaches, we'll work together on understanding who your inner child is, and how they manifest in your adult life, and learn tools to heal trauma, fear, pain, and conditioned behavior.

I help individuals understand and heal attachment wounds, fostering healthier relationships and deeper self-connection. Whether struggling with insecurity, fear of abandonment, or difficulty trusting others, I guide clients in identifying patterns shaped by past experiences. Using evidence-based techniques, I help build secure attachment within, empowering clients to form fulfilling, authentic relationships while strengthening self-trust, emotional resilience, and connection.

A healthy attachment is neither forced to be near nor forced to be away. Secure attachment comes from the security and safety to be in relationship and be ourselves in a way that is successful to our lives and honers the life of our relationships. Healthy attachment doesn't ask us to compromise ourselves or our others. It is the ability to hold with others and our selves. Education and knowing your tendencies in attachment will empower productivity in your relationships and avoid your triggers.

Every relationship we have is impacted by the way we attach to others. Some people feel safety and security in their attachments, others feel discomfort and anxiety. For people who grew up with relationships that were unpredictable, disconnected, manipulative, etc, connecting and forming relationships can be extremely difficult. Thankfully, therapy can be immensely helpful in bringing awareness and tools for change so that we can feel safe connecting again.

Together we will explore early life experiences to understand more about how you came to be who you are today. The way we attach, or do not attach, to our primary caregivers as a child has a huge impact on our adult relationships. We will identify your personal attachment style, and examine how this plays out in your past and current relationships. We can work together to assist you in developing a healthier attachment style to improve your relationships, and feel more secure in them.

A lot of my work with clients has been related to navigating what happens in their connections with others, where those patterns come from, and how they can achieve a sense of security and safety within those connections.

I work with clients to better understand the way your attachment styles impact the significant relationships in your life. I believe that we are all capable of different attachment orientations (sometimes at the same time) and I help clients recognize the way historic relational patterns impact impact them today.

Our relationship with those closest to us affects how we form our own identities, and impacts how we interact with everyone else around us. Attachment and trauma experiences go hand in hand, and play a huge role in how and why one experiences mental health concerns, including anxiety, depression, low self-worth, anger, dissociation, and so much more. I aim to help you recognize how you identify attachment concerns and how they affect you, and work through them in sessions.

It is my belief that attachment style formulates from childhood and can be influenced and repaired well into our senior years. Creating a consistent trusting safe haven space for a client to experience a new way of being in relationship is critical. Additionally, I have participated in specific Somatic training to work with the younger physiology underneath a client's attachment style first versus from the cognitive brain. This has the potential to create longer lasting results.

Attachment Theory is paramount in the work that I do with my clients. I utilize psychoeducation with my clients to help them understand Attachment Theory and how that relates to the emotional bond they feel with others, particularly with their partner. I help my clients identify their attachment styles. Once they can identify their style, they can understand what they are longing for and be able to communicate their needs to their partner in a healthier, more effective way.

“If you think you’re enlightened — begins an aphorism by psychologist and spiritual teacher Ram Dass — “[then] go spend a week with your family.” It rings true, right? That’s because we’re never more vulnerable — & therefore more easily triggered — than with our families of origin. And anyone who’s ever been in a partnership knows that those same wounds inevitably show up within the relationship. But there’s hope! In learning to reparent ourselves, we liberate ourselves to a new future

Attachment styles are not developed randomly. They are formed from all the "good" and "bad" encounters with our primary caretakers/family, which construct a mental and physical story of how we view and interact in our romantic, familial, and social relationships. These experiences can shape and distort our authentic self and influence our connections to others and the world. Gaining insight into your own attachment styles can be transformative in making shifts in creating deeper relationships.