Attachment

Healthy Attachment to self, family, community, and the world can all be in need of support and counseling. I am able to support you in your work to build healthy attachment rooted in your unique wholeness

Early formative attachment relationships set the stage for relationships going forward. By more thoroughly understanding yourself in relationships, we can begin to find more fulfilling ways of showing up in our relationships.

A healthy attachment is neither forced to be near nor forced to be away. Secure attachment comes from the security and safety to be in relationship and be ourselves in a way that is successful to our lives and honers the life of our relationships. Healthy attachment doesn't ask us to compromise ourselves or our others. It is the ability to hold with others and our selves. Education and knowing your tendencies in attachment will empower productivity in your relationships and avoid your triggers.

Our attachment styles develop when we are young. These patterns affect the way we relate in relationships during both easy and challenging moments. Experiential and practical exercises will help you know your own attachment style. You will find tools to support you to lean into relationships that are healthy as well as learn to ask for what you need and set appropriate boundaries. The capacity to lean into someone, to trust someone and let them trust you, is a great gift.

Do you find yourself wondering why you keep running into the same relationship problems over and over again with romantic partner, family members or friends? My goal is to help you to feel empowered in your relationships with self and others through understanding and gaining insight into how your attachment patterns are holding you back from getting the relationships that you want.

When it comes to couples counseling, attachment-focused therapy is a game-changer. It recognizes that our emotions are at the heart of our relationships, and that by better understanding and managing our emotions, we can create deeper, more meaningful connections with our partners. ​Couples learn to identify and express their emotional needs and to learn how to respond to their partner's emotional states in a supportive and caring way.

Attachment is one of those pieces that we can carry for a long time, and struggle to understand. I use EMDR, IFS, and brainspotting to help you lean in and gain an in-depth understanding of yourself so that you can learn how you adapt and function. In this process, you also learn to see yourself as human and love the human that is inside.

I work with clients to better understand the way your attachment styles impact the significant relationships in your life. I believe that we are all capable of different attachment orientations (sometimes at the same time) and I help clients recognize the way historic relational patterns impact impact them today.

Couples, as well as parents and their children, work with me to form secure attachments with each other. I help clients experiencing relationship difficulties and those who experience pain from circumstances or losses. While therapy work does not always focus on a client's childhood experiences, those pieces of our lives are always part of the story that makes us who we are. Both suffering and resilience come from our attachment relationships: parents, siblings, partners, children, even friends.

“If you think you’re enlightened — begins an aphorism by psychologist and spiritual teacher Ram Dass — “[then] go spend a week with your family.” It rings true, right? That’s because we’re never more vulnerable — & therefore more easily triggered — than with our families of origin. And anyone who’s ever been in a partnership knows that those same wounds inevitably show up within the relationship. But there’s hope! In learning to reparent ourselves, we liberate ourselves to a new future

Attachment is a foundational piece of my work as a therapist. I believe deeply that each of us carries the stories of our family and its history within us. Not only that, but you carry the stories they gave to you *about* you. Most of those stories are false. In our work together, we'll dig out the stories that no longer serve you, and create space for new stories to take root. My hope is that our work will help you reclaim your connection to your body, inner wisdom, and authentic truth.

Our attachment histories and needs often underlie many of the complaints or symptoms that bring us to therapy and point the way toward their resolution.

Attachment can affect our ability to have stable relationships. Identifying patterns and changing behaviors can get us out of failed relationship loops.

Aversion to touch and physical affection? Control issues? Anger problems? Difficulty showing genuine care and affection? Lack of inhibition? Struggling with a sense of self or conscience? This might be related to attachment. If you related to these descriptors or find yourself to be struggling within relationships, let's talk.

Are you struggling to connect with those you love? Are you a parent wanting to connect with your child in a stronger and healthier way? Do you feel like your child has big unexplained behaviors that are difficult to manage? Attachment therapy may be the tool you need! By focusing on strengthening relationships, attachment therapy helps parents and children connect and soothe disruptive behavior by strengthening felt safety in the relationship.

Attachment shows up in the families we grew up in, how we connect with friends and partners, how we handle our own families of creation, and more. I draw from attachment theory whether working with individuals, couples, or families, to support people in creating strong and secure connections with self, others, and the world.

I offer Experiential Attachment Psychotherapy which is a dynamic, present-moment mindfulness process that supports you in understanding the way you orient toward yourself, others, and the world and offers us the opportunity to heal developmental or transitional attachment wounds and trauma in present-moment processing in our relationship. The goals of this process is you feeling a sense of I AM, I WANT, and I CAN rooted securely within yourself and a solid and strong sense internal goodness.