Men's Issues

Guys, you deserve therapy, too. I have experience working with men's issues, including anxiety, depression, masculinity, identity issues, fatherhood, and learning how to better communicate your needs. Here, you'll find a space that honors your perspective and doesn't try to "fix" you, but instead helps you identify what you need and how to communicate it.

As a man, you may be used to: Solving your own problems Not asking for help Avoiding talking with others about things that cause you stress and upset Believing that there is something “unmanly” about seeking and participating in counseling Again, you are not alone. There are numerous reasons that boys and men in our culture would choose to suffer in private silence than admit to another person that there is something they cannot fix on their own. In addition, it’s sometimes tough to go to your friends or family for support, or they are simply not helpful. And searching for solutions on the internet and in books has it’s limits (and can be confusing and frustrating, too). Now, you are still struggling and are thinking about seeking the help of someone like me: a men’s counselor. In our culture, there are expectations for men not to be “weak” or “vulnerable” and to hide emotions or be “warriors.” However, it’s a myth that talking about your problems and how you feel about them will somehow, magically, make you less of a man. Not true. Times are changing, and men need to learn critical skills like emotional intelligence, communication skills, stress management and relationship building. That’s where men’s counseling can help.

My passion is to help men overcome struggles that may be a byproduct of an outdated view of masculinity. I can help empower men to build emotional intelligence, communicate emotion with assertiveness and respect, overcome shame and manage anger. This starts with an exploration of family system, social support, or societal influence which may contribute to irrational beliefs about men.

Let me support you in navigating issues specific to what it means to identify as male.

No two men are identical, yet we share experiences and challenges that are common among many men, issues related to career success and expectations, struggles with emotional expression, self-esteem, veteran's concerns, and issues unique to straight, bisexual, gay, and queer-identified men. For nearly 20 years I have supported men impacted by personal hardship, trauma, and society's contradictory messages and expectations. I support men on the path to wholeness and authenticity.

I utilize existential, narrative, and humanistic methods to start and build a dialogue alongside the men with whom I work. Men have to manage unique sociocultural stressors throughout their lives, including the balance between work and home life, raising children, responding to our own fathers being absent or ambivalent during our childhoods, and retirement. I believe that masculinity has an important place in the world and I thoroughly enjoy promoting a modern perspective.

I offer a supportive space for men navigating various challenges. From identity exploration to communication skills, I help clients foster self-awareness and develop healthy coping strategies. Together, we address societal pressures and explore ways to promote emotional well-being and authentic self-expression.

I have experience working with men or masculine-identified people with working on healthy self-expression. Our culture, to this day, continues to send the message that masculinity is defined by the avoidance or armoring against perceiving as feminine. Like any aspect of identity, expressing who you are by saying who you are not, is a dilemma. There’s many right answers to the question, and I can help you feel supported in processing it.

In this world of changing gender roles it helps to think directly about what it means to be a man. The toxic masculinity we have been shown is no longer meeting our needs for meaning, love, or even empowerment. It can be liberating to ask, "What is sacred masculinity?" If we can have compassion and curiosity for the parts of us that took on toxic masculine attitudes, we can also learn to live in ways that honor both the sacred masculine and the feminine aspects of our being.

Men and women are similar in so many ways and men and women are vastly different in many ways as well. I love celebrating our differences as much as our similarities. Assisting men learn to express themselves emotionally and learning to deal with life in differing ways is a great joy of mine within practicing. Learning to identify and access differing parts of you is of paramount to overall life satisfaction within the relationships we are apart of.

I provide a safe and validating therapeutic environment for men to explore concerns they may not feel comfortable sharing with others.

I am able to talk openly with you about whatever issues that you're having with your marriage, when it comes to sex, your anxiety revolving around sex, and things that you might be embarrassed about telling your partner. I truly have a judgement free zone and I have already seen many things in life as I am 50 years old and I am here to help you overcome whatever challenges that you're facing.

Being a man in our culture comes with privilege and power, and also a host of challenges. Not every man has the same "issues" or experiences whatever challenges he has in the same way. However, from my experience leading men's groups and working with a diverse range of men as individual clients and as part of relationships; I believe there are some common hurdles for us to jump. We cannot escape gender, but I would love to work with you to see what influence being a man has had on your life.

Many of my clients are men and I love exploring identity, societal norms, and using psychoeducational skills in order to improve emotional attunement and awareness. I love holding space for men to process and learn more about relational and emotional skills.

Experience what it’s like to stop keeping all of your problems to yourself. Gain a new perspective on your challenges and build the skills you need to become the partner, father, family member, friend, and professional you want to be.

I work with men around issues of sexual identity, challenges with out of control sexual behaviors and sex addiction, libido and performance anxiety issues, and navigating sexual issues in relationships.

As a male-identifying individual, I understand what it means to be a man in today's society. I am skilled at creating a space in which men feel empowered to embrace their emotions and vulnerability.

Men are also oppressed by toxic masculinity. I like to help men to understand the challenges that the face around emotional understanding and expression.

Highlighting current struggles around men's mental health, sexuality, and physical health in regards to aging, relationship dynamics, and attachment styles. I help break down old patterns that get in the way of a modernized view of masculinity, from a non-toxic perspective without deconstruction of one's masculine sense of self. Emotions and understanding them, how to work with empathy, and how to find vulnerability within your relationships.

Expressing tenderness and being emotionally open are important to nurturing healthy relationships with those around you, yet few men feel comfortable doing this. Often, anxiety, depression, anger, impatience, lack of confidence, and life and work stress get in the way. I help and support men in stepping over these hurdles and improving their relationships.