Attachment Theory

I work collaboratively with partners, families and individuals who want to foster connection and form deeper, more loving relationships. I also work with parents to identify their struggles with parenting (be it a one time issue or an on going parenting struggle) and develop a plan to support the entire family system.

I became enamored with Attachment Theory in graduate school including joining a group of psychologists studying Daniel Siegel's book The Developing Mind (one of the earliest books on interpersonal neurobiology). Afterwards I sought out trainings from Daniel Siegel as well as others like Carol George and Diana Fosha for years. Attachment theory is the foundation of my approach to therapy, particularly the centrality of safety in relationships in order to explore, expand, and face challenges.

I work from an attachment perspective to de-escalate the problematic interactional cycle maintaining attachment insecurity and relationship distress by creating a therapeutic alliance and accessing unacknowledged primary emotions. Working from an attachment perspective allows individuals and couples access in underlying attachment-related emotions and the needs associated with these emotions opens the individual, couple, and/or family to address needs in new ways.

Attachment theory explores how early relationships with caregivers shape emotional bonds and influence behavior throughout life. It identifies four styles: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. Secure attachment fosters trust and healthy connections, while insecure styles may lead to fear of abandonment or emotional distance. These patterns impact relationships, self-esteem, and coping strategies.

Love isn’t just about compatibility—it’s about how we connect, trust, and feel safe with each other. I help couples untangle deep attachment wounds, break unhealthy cycles, and build secure, lasting bonds. Whether you’re anxiously chasing connection or shutting down to protect yourself, I help you shift these patterns—so your relationship feels less like a battlefield and more like a safe haven.

In examining how your past has impacted the way in which you view others and how you interact in relationships, I use the relationship between you and I as a vehicle for change. My aim is to create a corrective experience for you and create a space where you can try out different ways of being and interacting with others, if you so choose.

Like or not, we are deeply imprinted by the quality of our earliest experiences with our parents or caregivers. Clearly identifying how those relationships have shaped us is crucial in beginning any therapy. Deciding on ways to mend the wounds that exist for the majority of us is most of the journey. They say "I married my father/mother" for a reason--and no amount of "insight" can change it--only deep healing work can.

I have taken courses in Gottman, Attachment methodology such as EFT.

Secure attachment begins when caregivers reliably meet their child’s emotional and physical needs—creating a “secure base” for exploration. In our parenting sessions, we’ll also explore your own upbringing to uncover patterns that shape your responses. You’ll learn to read and respond to your child’s cues with sensitivity, offer comfort in distress, set clear boundaries, and encourage curiosity. Together, we’ll strengthen your bond and raise confident, resilient children.

Attachment theory is everywhere! Once we were born, we attached to something, an object, a person, or an existence! Attachment theory explains or predicts how we connect with others, including our loved ones, intimate partners, parents, children, or even in a professional setting. If you want a meaningful and healthy relationship with others, let's dive right into your attachment style!

I read about attachment theory and this immediately changed the game for me. I routinely use this to help you understand and validate your patterns in relationships. We can explore early family dynamics and learn how these have shaped your adult behaviors. I also love incorporating Schema Therapy. We are beings who thrive in healthy and safe relationships. Sometimes, our caregivers failed to meet those needs. I can help you learn skills to meet your needs as an adult.

Attachment theory is one of the bedrocks upon which I have built my own approach and skill set. Just as we can be grievously injured in relationship, we can grow and heal in one too. I know that our earliest experiences are the legs upon which our more mature lives stand on and sometimes we need a helping hand to explore areas of life that remain untested or parts of ourselves that we’d prefer not to know about.

Attachment theory, in developmental psychology, is the theory that humans are born with a need to form a close emotional bond with a caregiver and that such a bond will develop during the first six months of a child’s life if the caregiver is appropriately responsive. The British psychologist John Bowlby developed the theory focused on the experience, expression, and regulation of emotions at both species (normative) and individual (person-specific) levels of analysis.

Attachment theory (by John Bowlby) explores the impact of early relationships on individuals' emotional development and interpersonal patterns. In therapy, clients may examine their attachment history and how it influences their current relationships and sense of self. The therapeutic process often involves exploring attachment styles, such as secure, anxious, or avoidant, and working towards developing more secure attachment patterns.

All of us have relational blueprints that we learned in childhood. Its these blueprints that are often responsible for sucking us back into repeating old patterns. This isn't necessarily a bad thing--although I know it can feel like it! Instead, this experience of stuckness and repetition can be a clue that there's something unresolved from the past that we need to work through.

I believe that so much of who you are comes from the coding that you have built and developed starting from the first day you were born. I provide a space that helps you understand what makes you tick and inspires you to shift unhelpful relationship and behavioral patterns into ones that work for you.