Emotionally Focused Therapy

Emotionally Focused Therapy is an evidence-based treatment for couples, focusing on the patterns of communication that happen in the relationship. I help couples learn to identify your cycle of conflict, so you can predict (and avoid!) patterns that lead to arguing, feeling on edge, and being stuck in the pain of disconnection. In EFT, couples learn how to stop the cycle of conflict, as well as how to find new levels of safety and connection with one another to strengthen your bond.

Primary focus of practice, hundreds of hours of experience, and years of effective work with wonderful clients! See rest of my profile for additional information or contact me for more info.

My approach to meeting with clients has been deeply influenced by the work of Sue Johnson with Emotionally Focused Therapy, a highly researched and validated, evidence-based model. We'll work together to help you and your partner repair your ability to trust each other again and feel deeply connected.

I am currently being trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with anticipated completion in spring of 2021. EFT attunes to our own emotions and emotional regulation as well as how they interact with those of our partner(s). I primarily use EFT with relationships (monogamous couples as well as polyamorous/open relationships), though the benefits of my training can also be utilized with individuals.

I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.

Find out more about how I can help you with Emotionally Focused Therapy via my speciality webpage for couples: https://www.timholtzmantherapy.com/couples-therapy

Emotions play a crucial role in relationships. Through this approach, I guide couples in exploring their emotional experiences, identifying patterns of interaction that may contribute to conflict or disconnection, and fostering greater emotional intimacy. Overall, my goal with EFT is to help couples build a stronger foundation of trust and security, enabling them to navigate challenges together and cultivate a fulfilling relationship.

People are ran by emotions and emotions are hard. By gaining a greater understanding of emotions and how they are affecting you can lead to better control and more purposeful behaviors. I work with EFT so you can understand your motives, wants, and needs.

Emotion-Focused Therapy (EFT) can help individuals with anxiety or people-pleasing tendencies by guiding them to explore and understand their emotions more deeply. Through EFT, you'll learn to identify the underlying feelings driving your anxiety or need for approval, such as fear or shame. By processing and transforming these emotions, EFT helps you build emotional resilience, gain confidence, and develop healthier, more authentic ways of relating to others and yourself.

If we avoid emotional process then we may find maladaptive responses to navigating stressors, life events, and relationships. Emotionally focused therapy helps with emotional process and regulation and helps you engage with emotions rather than avoid them.

In Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), we delve into an evidence-based approach that strengthens the emotional bonds in your relationships. Whether you're part of a couple, a family, or seeking individual guidance, EFT helps you understand and express your emotional needs, break free from negative interaction patterns, and enhance open communication. It's not just about reducing conflict; it's about deepening your emotional connections for more fulfilling relationships.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps you understand and transform the emotions behind relationship conflict. If you're feeling disconnected or stuck, EFT helps you explore and express emotions, improving communication and strengthening your bond. I've completed the EFT externship, equipping me with the tools to guide you in rebuilding emotional security and creating a healthier, more supportive relationship.

In my work with couples, I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy, in conjunction with the Gottman Method Couples Therapy, having received advanced training in both.

Nearly 10 years of clinical experience and advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Our team specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy. We have all received advanced training in EFT. Some are Certified in EFT, and the others are working towards Certification. We regularly invest in advancing our skill as couples therapists using EFT, deepening knowledge in specialty topics such as helping couples reconnect sexually; work through a partner's trauma, depression or anxiety; working through relationship crises such as affairs or addictons; and helping couples restore relationships at risk of divorce and significant disconnection.

I believe that connection and emotional safety are the keys to happiness in relationships. But unfortunately, we tend to become stuck in negative patterns that reinforce disconnection. What we bring to the relationship is formed through our experiences with past relationships and our histories. I help clients to become aware of these patterns and change them. Through this, we can have new healthy interactions and experience more vulnerable communication and connections.

My training in EFT helps my clients to explore the attachment wounds from childhood that they experience, as well as develop deeper insights to their attachment and relational experiences. EFT helps people identify the underlying roots of the relationship dynamics that impact their ability to connect. This approach also helps clients find relief through validation, empathy, attunement and emotional communication with ourselves and our partners and create secure attachment from within.

I have received advanced training in EFT and use it with all of the couples I see. I use EFT to help couples better understand their unmet needs and effectively communicate them to their partners in a way that fosters deep emotional intimacy. I especially love to help prepare couples for a successful marriage in pre-marital counseling.