Bryan Holmes (He)

I can help you heal the pain, guilt, remorse, distrust and shattered rapport an affair brings to a relationship. You, individually or as a couple, and I identify the unmet needs the affair tried to provide and discover healthier ways of meeting them. Whether your partner knows you’ve cheated or you suspect is cheating, we will address ways and options for you going forward. The work of forgiveness, and letting go is powerful and can be rewarding.

I am a certified clinical trauma professional, CCTP. I can help you create new ways of countering the intense suddenness of painful memories, the endless sense of dread, or break the loops of cycling fear, anger, depression and anxiety. I can help you retrain your body through mindful awareness techniques and other tools to cope, heal and bring more peace, and a sense of safety, back into your life.

What usually begins as a means to self-soothe the discomfort of an unresolved hurt, grows into a habitual behavior which no longer satisfies, is unhealthy for you, and even worse, creates more discomfort and pain when you try to end it. I work with you to end the cycle you are caught up in, and to address the underlying unhealed wounds, or identify the negative beliefs that haunt you, now that your addiction source is no longer there to cover your discomfort.

I help couples identify and end the recurring negative interaction they experience through their repetitive cycles of frustration and hopelessness as each longs to be heard and understood without judgement and criticism, and without being discounted, talked over, threatened, insulted, or shut out. I teach you a way to communicate which invites curiosity, clarity, cooperation and provides a way forward when our mate responds with the word no one wants to hear to a request - "no."

I view spirituality as a source of strength and hope; an avenue to experiencing a greater sense of connection, acceptance and belonging; a means to opening oneself in safety and with appreciation to this mysterious sense of self-awareness we have and the ability to know beauty, harmony and peace, even while navigating life's ups and downs. Spirituality is the gift of meaningfulness and contentment that we enjoy or long for continually as we experience this miracle called life.